realisations about growing old, etc.

3.19.2014

the other nite i was watching friends reruns before bed, bing was in my lap, daniel was already asleep (as he often is) and the house was quiet. it was the episode when rachel turned thirty. she was have a little bit of a mental breakdown about it and they recapped the reactions of all the others when they turned thirty.

thirty. the big three-zero. they were all freaked out about turning thirty. and it occurred to me like a ton of bricks as i sat with my cat in the glow of the tv: we are their age. me, daniel, all our friends are rachel, monica, ross, phoebe, joey and chandlers age. wait a second, when did that happen?!

the next day i whined to daniel-- "but they are so ooold!" as i explained the previous nite's revelation, "we can't be their age." of course he could not resist pointing out that television characters do not continue to age after the show is cancelled. he also pointed out that the actors, the real people, do continue to age and are, in fact, still older than us. maybe he didn't really understand how i felt. do you??

when friends was in its prime, i was a teen. they seemed so grown-up to me, living on their own in nyc. now we are the ones that are grown-ups, living on our own, albeit not in nyc (which also bums me out). we are now their age. and somehow that is very strange. i have never been concerned about getting older, but maybe that was because i was young. hmm. i know i still am young and if anyone past their thirties is reading this i'm probably receiving some very giant eye rolls from across the internet. yep, i can feel them coming. but this was the first time that i had major pause about my age (and a friends rerun brought it on... who would have thought?) and i know its just the beginning of many more to come...

all of the above being said, at least along with age comes experience, maturity and lessons learned. it brings even stronger friendships and beautiful memories. those are all things that make growing up and growing older worthwhile.

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  1. Yes, I know how you feel.... I should say I remember how it felt since I have now well exceeded my 30s!! The first time you completely realize that you are all grow'ed up can be rather rattling. So take a minute or two to absorb it and then start enjoying all the perks of being 30 (of course you still have 1-1/2 years to wait to turn 30!!). I think my 30s and 40s were the best ever!! Definitely better than teens and 20s and those weren't too bad for me either. So you have lots and lots to look forward to my sweets. In the meantime, focus on getting better. After all, it takes longer to get well when you're older!! haha..... couldn't resist.

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    1. oh no, maybe thats why I've been sick for so long!!

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  2. I'm turning 30 in a few months and the thing I can't get over is that I don't LOOK like what AI thought I would look like at 30. I look like a baby not an adult capable of having babies! It's so weird!

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    1. I'm just going to operate on the theory that we are as young as we feel/look!!

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  3. I am in my 30's and my younger friends always say "but you know who you are in your 30's, right?..." Not exactly. In my 30's, I still feel like I'm in my 20's, trying to figure out who I want to be. I guess the take away is: There's no one way that 30 "is". Just be who you are and if you're a young person at heart, you'll always be 22 in a certain way. And, if you're blessed with good genes, you might even be mistaken for it once in a while!

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    1. haha thats so true... i always thought that i would have my life completely figured out by 30. boy was i naive! i realize now that we will never have life completely figured out, always more to learn and things are always changing. but thats half the fun anyways right??

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  4. I think I had that realization when I turned 29. That was worse than 30 for me! If only I was anywhere close to that now!!!

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    1. well I'm 29 in the fall so maybe I'm taking after you! ;)

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